Yes, it is a serious question. I've newly discovered this community. I'm here to seek expanded opportunities for fulfulling engagement with central Asia when it's feasible to travel again. I've started to learn Russian while I twiddle my thumbs and wait for the world to reopen.
Although I feel like I've unwittingly wandered into a room full of angry bees, I appreciate and value the perspective that you're sharing about selfish and exploitive people taking advantage of locals. I don't believe that I take advantage of locals, though I also worry about showering people with extraordinary gifts that will cause internal strife and dislocation within their community. I don't know all of the answers, but I try to be reflective and well-intended.
I am well aware of the tradition of hospitality in the region, and I strive in every case to express ample, genuine gratitude to my generous hosts and occasional saviors. It's a shame if others don't embrace the golden rule.
I don't know. Reading the room, I take it that many of you feel that all western travelers are evil and universally harmful. I've certainly met a few unpleasant tourists along the way. I haven't arrived at the conclusion that they're all vampires serially exploiting the poor. I don't think I am.
I'll spend some more time reading back through the forums and trying to get a better sense of the community. Perhaps this thread is an outlier, but I question whether I'll get much value out of these forums if the singular MO is to heap contempt on aspiring travelers.
Beyond raising the well-founded concern about selfishness and cheapness, are there any other thoughts about what makes the original post so objectionable? I read it through a (perhaps naive) lens of someone eager to build connections and experience a different view of the story than we see in the warmongering western media. Right or wrong, I see tourism as an indicator of an open and healthy society.